Narcissist: (n). Someone who looks at his or her reflection at every opportunity possible. Whether it be a mirror, a glass door, a lake, or even a spoon. That may be your description of a narcissist, but Narcissistic Personality Disorder is actually one of 10 personality disorders.
What does science say about narcissism?
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental disorder in which a person has an inflated ego and sense of importance, as well as a deep desire for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. Some symptoms include coming across as conceited, arrogant, or pretentious. Narcissists often look down on people they define as inferior and even feel a sense of entitlement when they may not actually deserve one. Because of this, narcissists exaggerate their own importance and achievements. They may even take advantage of others to reach their goals.
However, this elevated ego is a mere facade of a narcissist’s true feelings. Some scientists believe that narcissists are insecure inside. Thus, when it comes to criticism, they react negatively with rage or contempt. Others believe that narcissists are secure and pretentious, both internally and externally. When their self-esteem is threatened, narcissists may respond to their insecurities by being aggressively defensive.
Narcissism is quite rare among children and teens, as their personality continues to change throughout maturity. It is more common among adults, and more in men rather than women, occurring in up to 6.2% of the general population. It may also be linked with parent-child relationships, as excessive pampering of children may cause a sense of self importance, or possibly even genetics.
A trained mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, can diagnose narcissism, and then depending on the severity, therapy may be recommended. First, a physical exam is done to ensure there are no physical causes. Then, a psychological evaluation is done by filling a questionnaire. Although most narcissists are unwilling to ask for help, they can learn to be more caring about others through therapy. Unfortunately, there are severe side effects of narcissism, such as depression. Any type of criticism can hurt a narcissist, possibly leading to a prolonged sense of insecurity and rejection.
Being a narcissist is much more than obsessing over one’s appearance. It is in fact a personality disorder that can take over one’s life with depression. However, all hope is not lost. In fact, a psychologist or psychiatrist can help, but the first step is realizing a potential problem and seeking out help.
